Any particular trick? Pulling a fuse or antenna or just declining requests to go online?

Save us Abobo!

Yeah, let’s have the blackbox next word guessing machine making decisions, why not?

Devs using Discord instead of forums perplexes me as much as it annoys me. It’s just the wrong tool for the job.

How does one even get on a private server these days? (Feel free to DM)

Keep it off the Internet and don’t update the firmware

Hypocrisy, politicization, hellfire, and lack of community I guess.

If religion is supposed to be the opium of the masses, it should at least leave me feeling better after church. The rising ideology was naive and attracted narcissists, and there was less and less space to hold on to the original beliefs. It started looking less like a refuge from the world and more of the world. It wasn’t perfect before but there was more flexibility and grace at least.

Co-ops and collectives can help bridge the gap between management interest and worker interest.

I’d also suggest authentication by key file.

I wouldn’t feel compelled to kill my clone, so I don’t think my clone would feel compelled to kill me either.

Does Grayjay get around region restrictions?

Esperanto ne estas perfekta, sed ĝi estas to plu populara planlingvo en tuta la mondo, kaj ĝi estas sufiĉe bona.

He can’t chudpost every time, but I’ve listened to him talk with an open mind before and in my opinion his occasional insights are overshadowed by his self-important whinging.

Your rant is 100% sensible and/or valid and/or based or whatever one says these days.

If a user wants their own echo chamber, let them cultivate it themselves. The hosts should not decide for them, and the choice to defederate should be based on practical/material/legal concerns only.

To me the biggest issue with federated platforms is defederation: deliberately breaking interoperability.

Like, imagine if email servers (the original federated network) blocked whole domains as aggressively Mastodon or even Lemmy servers do? It never would have worked.

Work on building capacity in yourself to engage. You may be less naturally skillful at interacting, but everyone can improve. You’re not that much older than her either. Be kind, open, and honest with her. Ask open ended questions. Make time.

I mean, I hate BlueSky too, but I think the reason it’s more popular than Mastodon is that it’s more centralized and in practical terms that means it’s easier to adopt and engage with.

The biggest headache I have with Mastodon (and Lemmy, to a lesser extent) is defederation. I understand it’s the most practical thing to do sometimes, but it’s waaay overdone. Like, there needs to be a culture of only defederating as a last resort due to pratical concerns (e.g. bots I guess). Unfortunately the current culture is one where many instance admins treat defederation as a personal blocklist. I wish more admins would leave it to individual users to decide who to allow or not.

It still needs polish, but the biggest deficit is lack of adoption.

Platforms like Twitter encourage casual breaks between public and private space, but Facebook-like platforms are better for passively extending existing friendship circles. Or so it seems to me.

Yeah, but how long do you have to dampen your crack in order to feel the equivalent clean of two dry wipes?

I get that’s the principle, but how long are you supposed to spray for? How much pressure? Is there a trick to it? In my own limited experience, it doesn’t actually do much more than dampen the poo.