Blahaj is very much a queer friendly instance. Mostly trans folk, but imho you will get a good response there.
Also, feel free to DM me if you want. I went through a lot of therapy to be okay with my sexuality, happy to discuss whatever privately if you would like :)
Edit: Cuz you seen to be asexual, perhaps !asexual@lemmy.world ? <1k subs unfortunately so maybe a bit dead, but worth a shot.
Just make sure you’re not combative on blahaj, the mods are very protective in a mama bear sort of way. 🥾
I’ve asked for help finding API endpoints that do what I want because I’m feeling too lazy to pour over docs and it’ll just invent endpoints that don’t exist