• hoodlem@hoodlem.me
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    1 year ago

    Do you know each other IRL and are now switching to long distance, or has your entire interaction been online?

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        1 year ago

        Of all the people from my freshman year of college who had long distance relationships at the start of the year, none of them were still in those relationships at the end of the year. That’s an incredibly hard / bordering on impossible time to maintain a distant relationship while you’re going through such an exciting time in your life. I’d say set yourselves free.

  • CrypticCoffee@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    That is probably won’t last and do you really want to lock you and the other person in when there is logically very little way to progress this fully without an effort to move closer.

  • johnthedoe@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    Have a plan to both see each other regularly. And also have to set an end date where you’ll be together and no longer doing long distance.

    I had one and it worked out. We were able to meet once a month in each other’s city or a new city. We agreed that we’ll quit our jobs and travel the world for a while after she’s done with her studies. After that we’d return and move to a new city together and now married.

    We couldn’t have done it without having a good enough income to travel regularly but not tied down to move for each other. Without this end date it also wouldn’t have worked. We needed to work towards something.

  • Sibbo@sopuli.xyz
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    1 year ago

    It’s difficult and painful. You will feel lonely many days, but can’t act upon it because you promised yourself to someone else.

    Think how long you will be long distance. Do you really want to live like this for that long?