I’m already 35, and I don’t think I could get anything at this age, especially in an area with almost no third places, almost nonexistent mental health system, etc.
Yes I know, friends do exist, but it’s just not the same (unless you happen to regularly have sex, cuddle, etc. with your friends).
Commute to your nearest local city. Annoying and hard? Yeah, but plenty of people date in their 30s.
Issue is, even the nearest local city is absolutely deserted, with nothing in it.
That’s not how cities work.
I see your pain/frustration, but for relationships to work they have to be somewhat optional - there’s no guarantee for romantic relations and once that is established, there’s less frustration, which leaves room for exploring relationships.
I would hazard a guess that they live in USA… significantly sprawled out (with more issues like zoning and lack of public transport) to the point what you’d consider a “real” city would be a road-trip or even a flight away. Even then I’m not so sure with living costs and corporate spaces, often somewhere you visit rather than live in.
If your Nd and the commute is an hour away, you’re already exhausted and in no functioning to attempt to meet. Most ask where you are from and if you’re not local, your ostriched