Dusty old bones, full of green dust.

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Cake day: June 2nd, 2024

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  • Yes. I studied and have a degree in animation. I wanted to work in animation, specifically as a story board and background artist. However, I’m talentless. I attempted graphic design work, but my first gig was with Lisa Frank, and that didn’t go well. I searched for more design work and I could only find work in customer service. After a year of portfolio work, applications, etc., I had to accept I just don’t have talent and I wasted my money. My goal was to avoid my current job because all I heard growing up was how awful it was. I studied hard, graduated with honors and everything. Still a talentless dumbass who now works in insurance. I will likely stay in this career (insurance) until I die.





  • My friend wants to play games with me last weekend, but I completely forgot. It’s something she wanted to do for her birthday since we’re states apart and our schedules are weird. She said she’s fine, but I can tell I disappointed her by missing such a simple request and I feel absolutely terrible.

    However, it was a wake up call. I’ve been very lethargic and tired, but I just kind of ignored it, but it’s now affecting my friendship, so I’m going to try to make some changes to help with my energy. I don’t want to disappoint her again if I can help it.












  • I don’t think it’s wrong for you to want a relationship with your dad, but it is weird that you kind of brush over the cheating. Your father had an affair, does that not affect you? You don’t even look at him a little different? Do you not understand why your mom is lashing out or why she’s as hurt as she is? Again, I do not think her request is reasonable, but this woman, from what I’m getting from the post, was cheated on, publicly enough that it was a big scandal, lost her husband, her home, and her son. While everyone is having a great time with the mistress, she’s seemingly alone with no one in her corner telling her how what she went through was hurtful and offering her some comfort. You’re like, “he’s my best friend, so I don’t really care, him cheating on my mother didn’t change anything to me, it’s not like he cheated on me.”

    Relationships are complicated. I don’t know what your relationship with your mom is, but if she wasn’t abusive and you do have some affection for her (even if she isn’t your best friend), I would talk to her. Both of you should explain how you’re feeling. Maybe she wants you with her because she thinks you like being around her as much as she likes being around you, maybe she thinks you two are closer than you actually are, or maybe she’s nuts and is making one final attempt to control. But your mom as seemingly lost everything important to her by putting her foot down against cheating while everyone is like, “finally, she’s gone. Just swap her out with a younger version.” I don’t know a lot of people who wouldn’t be hurt by that.



  • Someone already wrote a really good answer, but using the money to help fund programs would be a start. Maybe make a safe place where they can hang out that doesn’t offend you (not you specifically, just in general). If possible, I would even try and talk with them, become neighbors instead of enimies. While tackling homelessness would take a system wide change, I think sometimes just not adding to the problem and shame is the best we can do.

    And I get it, I’ve had homeless people scream at me, see them urinate outside, not everything humans do is pleasant, and I also wouldn’t want all of that right in front of my business. But, at least in this example, there is a ton of empty space, the building itself is mostly empty. Come together and make the rest of the unused property a shelter. That parking lot behind them alone was gigantic and I don’t think I saw any cars there, why not let them have part of the parking lot? It just seems easier to be kind and try to work with them than set up a sound system to keep the entire neighborhood up.