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  • ComfortableRaspberry@feddit.orgtoAutism@lemmy.worldIs this you?
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    8 days ago

    The issue is a bit more complex: When you asked me, I usually answer sincerely which means there’s at least a few chunks of info the following conversation could build upon. That’s the flow that feels more natural to me. Adding a “How about you?” at the end feels like shoehorning a formality in there and interrupting the “natural” flow. It also makes me feel kind of dishonest to add it anyway even though I feel like it’s not fitting.

    I avoid this whole issue by trying to ask first and ask follow up questions before they can add pleasantries.



  • I can do that part with the eyes on purpose. It’s a bit like not actively using them anymore and they’re just in idle, not focused on anything so everything’s blurry.
    Have you tried to focus on something specific instead of shaking your head?

    It also happens when my attention span sinks and my thoughts become more dominant. Kind of like a warning sign that my social batteries are nearly drained.







  • The fact that you have to mask something in a situation like that is the point, not the severity. You may mean well, but you’re gatekeeping mental health issues by saying “if you are still able to control yourself, you are not sick enough”. That is something that still prevents a lot of people from getting the help they need.





  • Yesss! Same problem with other tests like ADHD: questions are like “do you often get up and walk around the room in unfitting situations?”

    I mean I have the urge but I learned to mask for my whole life. Obvs I’m not DOING it, I just have the strong urge and stopping me takes up all my attention. But that’s not part of the question?