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Cake day: July 17th, 2023

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  • This is exactly how the most popular candidate for the Democrats got switched for Joe Biden. Bernie Sanders was getting cut from coverage despite HUGE support and all of a sudden, Obama’s bumbling VP was being shown as the top candidate.

    Without trying to go down a conspiracy hole, Sanders was a threat to corporate power, predatory banking, and dis-regulation. DNC wants to play as close to the line as they can to get your vote, throw you a few bones, and still take your money. This is why the left and the right in America is still far right of everywhere else.

    As someone who has good friends that I respect that are all across the political spectrum, this is where I hope my friends that think trump will break certain things are right. So that the pendulum swing comes back so strongly that we can clearly see how broken things were and fix them in a way that benefits actual people, not just barely enough like the DNC likes to keep things.

    Take the ACA for example. Obama had the best of intentions. But he took Chris Dodd’s plan as the basis. Chris Dodd’s wife, Jackie Clegg, sat on the boards for many health industry companies. The plan could have worked, but was stripped of the public option. Only with subsidies was the plan possible to offer healthcare to people at a sometimes reasonable price, often not. Now those subsidies are ending. The only good thing to come out of it, from what I can tell, is that insurance companies can’t deny you for pre-existing conditions. Up till now, It’s just enough to make us think that at least it’s not worse, but let’s be honest, healthcare in America sucks. There are excellent people working as nurses, doctors, EMTs, etc, but insurance, pharmaceutical companies, and private equity working to keep us just barely alive and too desperate to fight it. This is the type of thing Bernie Sanders fought against and why he disappeared from coverage, endorsement, and ballots.

    This is part of what needs to break. DNC would bend it as far as it could get away with while trying to make us think it’s working, but trump will break it and call me idealist, but I hope the pushback instills leadership with someone like Sanders who cares enough to mend those bones in a way that serves the people.


  • 40s, most days each week. My wife and I schedule couch rotting days to recharge.

    Edit: I hadn’t read through many other responses before I commented. Not trying to flaunt or anything. I just wanted to let younger folks know that social life isn’t necessarily doomed as you get older. We don’t have kids (which makes it easier,) but many of our friends do. They just have to be deliberate about setting aside time for themselves which can be tough to do.






  • My dad needed a very clear, more scratch resistant glass for a product he was working on. Up until then, the best you could get was by going to glass companies and getting sapphire coated glass. He searched a chemistry book of compounds and found what he was looking for. Based on the structure, the qualities were known, but it hadn’t ever been created. So he then to a chemical company and worked with them to make it. It’s essentially aluminum oxide (corundum/ruby or sapphire depending on the color. His was colorless.)

    When he unveiled it to the company he worked for, he called it “transparent aluminum”. He said one guy at the back of the room caught the Star Trek reference.




  • Talk to real people in your community. I have friends all across the political spectrum and class spectrum. We can disagree on many things, but we agree on most things. That’s important. Quit guzzling “news”.

    After Helene, I saw how people respond to real problems. Showed me that what I was already doing really is the way. Love people. Show them love. Fuck the news, fuck the headlines, focus on your community. Stop seeding fear. That’s all it is. Be love.

    I know it’s fucked, but just focus on the people around you and foster good relationships. Don’t try to understand everything they do or think that’s different from you. Just accept them where they’re at and where you’re at. Start there. It makes a huge difference. If it all goes to shit, you will have built relationships that matter.


  • Give it time. I started wearing glasses at 6. Contacts at 9 until I was ~22-23. Glasses again for the last twenty years. My prescription is heavy (-7.75 and -8.25.) It’s weird switching from contacts to glasses and vice versa. Looks like a fishbowl at first. Depth perception is off. Your eyes will adjust. That said, make sure you have a good eye doctor. Don’t start with internet companies. Go to a legit doc and then take your prescription and get backup glasses but be skeptical of the alignment and fit. If you don’t trust the prescription, get a second opinion. Take care of your eyes.






  • Apologies are largely for the person delivering them, but I will say, they’re important in a healthy relationship. An honest apology shows the other person that their feelings are understood and validated while also recognizing the harm done by the person apologizing. If you are no longer in a relationship of some sort with that person, the apology is solely for them.

    I expect an apology from my spouse only when I want them to recognize that I was hurt by what they did/said. If that isn’t met, it’s important for me to, respectfully, tell them the way that I’m feeling about their actions or words. Again, in a healthy relationship like I have with my spouse, they will empathize with my perspective and offer apology. This is in no way narcissistic for them to do, but if I feel it’s facetious, I sternly say thank you in a tone that says I see that you think you should apologize, but this is not a true apology.

    What you’re describing is something where no apology could make up for the hurt that was caused. Narcissistic? I think that’s a deeply psychological thing, but you are in no way required to accept an apology. Again, it would be for the other person and in this case it might be best for you to let them know that you can’t accept an apology. There’s no making up for what they did, no gesture or otherwise will make it better. They have to live with that guilt because some consequences last a lifetime. Frankly, fuck their apology. Fuck them. You have to live your life and they have to find a way to live with what they’ve done. You don’t have to accept an apology.