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Cake day: June 20th, 2023

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  • Not going to agree with the commenter above, but I want to point out that this happens a lot:

    A person who holds views that are detrimental to others comes to a community of those people and cries “why, when I am not quite like other people who hold these views, but agree with them on the detrimental stuff about you, do you not accept me?”

    The people in the community try repeatedly to explain why holding views that harm others is harmful and that the person asking may need to revaluate their own views.

    The person then says they’re being attacked. Everything they predicted about this community is coming true! They feel like they’re being kicked out!

    And they are! Because when they came to engage then didn’t change, let alone evaluate, any of their own views, the community rightly showed them back to the door until they are ready to actually listen and put themselves in someone else’s shoes.

    I am sure you feel like you have been badly treated at this point. What you do with that now is up to you. I’ll say this: I have no hate for you, I would like nothing more than to give you some feedback that might help change how you view some things. I hope there is enough food for thought here for everyone.



  • The sad truth is it will need to get much worse until conservatives will admit there is a problem and let progressives solve it.

    It has always been this way. You either live in a progressive, upwardly moving state with improving quality of life or you get stuck in a conservative, stagnant or downward trending place where people are more concerned with “others” than they are with doing anything productive as a society. As a species, we seem to slowly wobble back and forth between these extremes. It’s maddening.



  • In 10 years you haven’t made any professional connections who would want to work with you again?

    That is the single best avenue to other jobs: foot in the door through someone you have worked with who can vouch for your professionalism and ability.

    If you’re not making those connections, something is wrong. It could be the kinds of jobs you’ve taken, eg: if they’re all solo contracts and you don’t interact with anyone on anything other than deliverables. Or you are taking roles where your output is used only by a small sunset of the company or something?

    If you’re taking reasonable roles and have decent interaction with co-workers and no one is willing to refer you for a job, then you need to think about what your relationships are like at work and why they aren’t positive enough.



  • I’ve definitely arrived at a place in my online life where I do not need to be on some company’s corporate advertising mill website.

    I left, and I know I’m just one middle aged dude pining for the internet before the companies turned their roving eyes to it, but I have no interest in going back, regardless of what they do at this point. I offer this because maybe more people will start to think “do I really need to be a part of a community of millions, or even hundreds of millions? or maybe is it more healthy for me to find the right community online that is a bit more like a mid-sized city? We can share news across these little islands, so we don’t all need to fit in a single corporate container.”


  • I mean, they’ve definitely lost people to the fediverse, the majority here at this point are probably reddit refugees.

    They may have gained in total users for all I know or care. This place just feels more like the old internet I like. Really looking forward to the slow decline in people here caring about what’s happening on Reddit, regardless of how big and successful or how terribly failed it is.






  • what about a microblog here? are there limitations on their size? what are those limits like?

    I mean, if the things support markdown and a decent storage space, that sounds like something better than a tweet and a gist combined.

    edit: I went and looked a little myself, and it seems microblogs must be posted to a magazine? can’t I just publish one from my own user profile or something?