eupraxia

Queer spaces/meetups mostly! Or meeting partners’ partners. Grindr gets a bad rap for not entirely undeserved reasons, but I did meet some wonderful people there too.

early on I mostly just got on with my partner’s partners, didn’t form relationships with all of them but if I like someone, chances are I’ll like their partners too!

I promise plenty avoid the drama. also my god, have you ever talked to a monogamous couple?

The best bathroom I’ve seen is at a nearby brewery. One bathroom for everyone. Toilets on the right, urinals on the left, signs designating which side is which. Each has a stall, with floor-to-ceiling doors and a sturdy lock. It looks more like a locker room from outside the stalls. There’s big circular sink on the way out, with a mirror and shelf on a nearby wall. It’s extremely private in the place you actually do your business, but the remaining area is very visible from the outside and there’s plenty of people around given everyone’s sharing the same space. I cannot imagine a safer way to lay out a bathroom. It’s amazing what happens when you give people privacy.

“oh but what if people shoot up in there” - Sharps disposal box. If someone is shooting up in there, they probably shouldn’t be, but if they are, there’s a safe way to dispose of it. I promise nobody looks at a sharps disposal and decides to start using now that there’s a place to dispose of the needle. Really nice for people who take prescribed medications by injection, too.

“oh but it’s too expensive” - I’ve been lucky to travel enough to see less developed places I didn’t know the customs or language of with bath"rooms" more akin to bath"sides-of-buildings" that I STILL felt safer in than American bathrooms because they have a REAL FUCKING STALL. They’re gender-neutral mostly because (shocker) two bathrooms tend to be more expensive to build and maintain than one.

If legislators really cared about this issue, they’d put resources toward remodeling public bathrooms to at least have decent stalls and better visibility. They aren’t doing that, so that’s not what this is about. It’s just an easy way to pick on a minority by way of creating a boogey-trans-man - Republican business as usual.

He’ll still be arrested or at the least harassed, and that’s the point. The goal is to prevent trans people from using any public bathrooms.

oh frig you said the funk word oooooooo

This is broadly true, and the majority of the information in the new dietary guidelines is more or less in line with what we know already and what was recommended before. Protein is a great energy source that keeps you fuller longer, and is especially important if you’re active. But the new recommended range of protein intake is ridiculous. 1.2-1.6 grams per lb of body weight is well above the range that is helpful for bodybuilders, much less average sedentary Americans. Many will meet this with red meat consumption, which has a number of negative health and climate effects that the new dietary guidelines have nothing to say about.

You also really do need fats and carbohydrates for a number of vital body processes, and I think unless they’re active and being VERY careful, someone eating 1.6 g/lb of protein will struggle to get enough fat and carbs without introducing a caloric surplus.

This is why you shouldn’t kill rattlesnakes. If we kill the rattlesnakes that make themselves known, over time they adapt to not rattle before striking.

When I’m mentally unwell, I isolate myself instead of sharing the load with the loved ones in my life that would jump at the opportunity to support me. I fear being seen in a vulnerable state and given enough rumination I can easily find “reasons” why maybe it would be for the best if I disappeared for a bit instead.

I haven’t been able to directly overcome it yet, but I’ve become aware enough to communicate it and people in my life at least know the signs of it happening now.

Sure, but that’s still not necessarily sex?

One can also wear fun undergarments to a date and then decide not to undress or have sex - usually I think of it as “in case something happens” rather than expecting it from the outset. If nobody sees it, it’s not a disappointment, it’s just fun regardless.

Speaking as 14… a bralette can be pretty comfortable and keep the girls in place when I roll over in my sleep. Definitely no underwires though, fuck that.

You’re not wrong, “I arrived” is the better translation, “I came” is just (to my knowledge) the more common one people recite in the context of “veni vidi vici” and what this joke was playing off of.

“I came, I saw, I came”

This, 100%. For some reason people imagine vegans as an ideologically aligned group rather than a bunch of people making their own varied decisions for their own varied reasons. Then when inconsistencies come up between vegans they’ll decry it all as performative. Meanwhile, vegans themselves tend to just be happy to see others making their own best effort and the hair-splitting over what is vegan matters a lot less than generally resisting animal product consumption in any capacity.

Setting a unifying standard for a broad group of people that they’ll never meet and then reacting to the shock of them failing to meet that standard is a common rhetorical tactic in other contexts, no surprises it turns up here too.

One I haven’t seen in this thread yet: the last playable bit of Bastion, if you choose to take Zulf with you. An early example of Supergiant’s mastery of interactive storytelling, coming to a head with a recognition of humanity in the midst of apocalyptic war.

I won’t overhype it, as others are saying it changes up a lot and there’s a particular section near the end that a few people I know bounced off of. It will be a very different experience, built on the same bones, but trying to accomplish something different.

But holy shit, to me it’s an improvement on an already phenomenal game, and builds on its narrative and mechanics in ways I thought were really clever. It feels like the other side of the coin from the main game and bolsters its themes from another perspective. Can’t recommend it enough.

I gotta get around to the other games in the series sometime, To The Moon was incredible. It’s been so long and I don’t remember many specifics, but I do recall it being one of a few games that encouraged me to come to terms with mortality.

Same on both counts. TWD season 1 is absolutely masterful and got me to care for its cast incredibly quickly.

I genuinely can’t believe the renegade interrupt that can happen during that scene in ME3 is in the game. I haven’t gotten spoiler tags to work consistently across Lemmy so I won’t say it but you know the one. One of those times where being given a choice to kneecap an incredible story moment felt really weird. Maybe other players didn’t connect with him as much / had more desire to continue the genophage?

Outer Wilds got me too, for sure, and stayed in my thoughts long after I finished. The music from the slideshow at the end of the DLC still makes me well up a bit. Such an incredible game. I still think of “the universe is and we are” from one of Solanum’s logs all the time.

I was raised around a lot of “patriotism” (closet nationalism) and have had to adapt the feeling now that I understand better what America actually is and has been. I found that trying to abandon the feeling altogether was making me feel cynical and alone. The parts of America that I love in fact tend to exist despite our government and dominant culture, which steals and appropriates the things I love about us and turns them into the things people know about us and dislike for good reason. I love the source materials, not the end result. As a white person born into privilege on stolen land, my existence is not entirely apart from this, but all’s I can do with that is try to make something better of it.

There’s a salt-of-the-earth working-class segment of this country that’s getting screwed over, knows how and why they and others are getting screwed over, and has learned to survive together in spite of it. People that make families out of communities. Rail hoppers, union organizers, queer punks, the list goes on. That spirit is not unique to this country but there do exist uniquely American forms of it. I’m more proud of these people than words can express, and that’s about as close to patriotic as I can feel these days.

Maybe I just like seeing our shitty protestant labor worship turned to something more productive. Maybe I just spent too much time in the mountains to not fall in love with the land itself. Or maybe I just love banjos.