I don’t know if it’s like different learning styles or what but some people just need to have a whole ass call. I’m like, I’ll just write you a nice message you can refer back to. Nope.
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yeah, clearly a random stranger on the internet knows more about my own life and my own life experiences than I do.
You sound absolutely delusional, so, yeah maybe.
It’s the same story in any major USA coastal city.
I don’t know what city you’re in, but the median income in NYC is like $85k and there is a wide range of people here.
I make 150K a year, own a modest condo, and I am considered ‘poor’ because the expected income for a desirable man is 300-500K a year.
Don’t try to date the kind of person who expects $400k/year? In all my years of dating I don’t think I’ve ever met someone with that expectation, and that’s probably for the best.
The attractive people involved are already coupled.
It is also extremely implausible that this is 100% true. Unless you were going to events that select for couples, you’re going to find a mix of relationship states.
physical fitness has nothing to do with attractiveness. lots of unattractive people are super fit, and lots of attractive people are unfit.
People generally find healthiness attractive. Fitness is correlated with healthiness, and this somewhat correlated with attractiveness. Tastes differ. But generally, people are not going to find “can’t run up the stairs without wheezing” more attractive than “can run”
I live in a city full of wealthy entitled people, who think they are superior to others by birthright and what college they went to, and who won’t talk to you if you don’t work for a fortune 500 company.
Very few cities are so homogeneous. Don’t dox yourself but what do you feel comfortable sharing about what city this is? I find it extremely unlikely that the entire city is full of people who only talk to fortune 500 people. Do all the wait staff and service workers exist in silence and depart the city at dusk?
Sounds like you’re putting up barriers blocking your own success, mostly.
I’ve never met an attractive woman in any meetup, sports even, hobby, or volunteering thing I have ever done.
This sounds extremely implausible. Those activities should have a wide, fairly random, selection of attractiveness. Sports might favor people more physically fit, which is positively correlated with common ideas of attractiveness.
Maybe you’re using some non-standard or idiosyncratic standard of attractive?
I get absolutely nothing except the occasional random weirdo woman who approaches me at a bar and starts telling me what stupid jerk I am for reading books or having a cat
On the other hand, maybe you live in hell?
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No Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•Is the "everyday stuff" supposed to feel normal? Do y'all just have a parent do things then when you're supposed to be the adult you panic?
9·2 days agoThis is the best answer.
The receptionist really doesn’t care. You’re one of dozens of people they see every day. They’re not going to remember or care if you ask for help.
I feel like if you’re not going to use an app, you should focus on real life. Join meetups. Join a local sports team. Posting on a forum isn’t going to be more effective than that.
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Technology@lemmy.world•Meta staff protest surveillance software on work PCsEnglish
231·2 days agoIt’s hard to make a full judgment without knowing more details but “the pay is good and it’s easy” isn’t really a compelling justification for “and I help evil manifest in the world”.
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Technology@lemmy.world•Meta staff protest surveillance software on work PCsEnglish
33·2 days agoI knew a guy who went to work for palantir a bunch of years ago. Was always friendly at work. I asked him “but what’re you going to do if they do bad stuff, like spying on people?”
He just shrugged. Didn’t care. The money was good.
I don’t know if this alone is proof that’s a bad person, but I think it precludes him from being a good one.
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politics @lemmy.world•Hegseth removes flu vaccination requirement for US troops
12·3 days agoDo you think they’re intentionally trying to weaken the US, or just stupid?
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politics @lemmy.world•Chip Roy Unveils ‘MAMDANI Act’ to Bar, Deport Migrants Over Ideology
57·4 days agoThe legislation seeks to amend existing immigration law to bar entry and naturalization, as well as create new grounds for deportation for anyone linked to what it describes as “totalitarian” parties, both foreign and domestic.
Trumpism is pretty “totalitarian”. I wouldn’t be that upset if all the magas got removed from power, and the irony of their own law being used to do it would be delicious.
That humor aside, this is a terrible idea that should be grounds for Roy’s immediate removal from office.
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Fuck AI@lemmy.world•The tech oligarchs' dream of a post-literate society continues to advance
11·4 days agoMy leading theory is there are many, many, people who are semi literate and don’t realize. They think reading is just kind of uncomfortable and slow, and don’t understand why anyone else would. Maybe they’re reading each word out loud in their head, sounding some of them out. You wouldn’t find a lot of people like that on a text based platform like this.
But for someone like that, an AI summary or video is probably a relief.
I took some dubious online reading speed tests the other day and it said like 350wpm, but the average is like half that.
Personally, I think the solution would be to invest in education, but there’s no quarterly money in public good.
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Fuck AI@lemmy.world•The tech oligarchs' dream of a post-literate society continues to advance
3·4 days agoWith a 9 prefix for organic!
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World News@lemmy.world•‘Popesplaining’ Vance out of depth in argument over whether Iran is a just warEnglish
2·5 days agoConservatives don’t care about being correct or consistent. They say things for effect. They follow their feelings. Something inside them is broken and ruined. They project constantly onto others, because introspection would shatter their flimsy ego.
It’s hubris and/or abuse, and should be illegal barring exceptional circumstances.
Public schools should be well funded.
Private schools should also be illegal.
jtrek@startrek.websiteto
Programming@programming.dev•What was the smallest python hobby project you worked on?
3·5 days agoI did some webdriver stuff for reasons I don’t remember anymore.
I also made a simple Django app to track job applications.
Unsolicited advice:
- use type annotations. You’ll thank yourself later when your IDE tells you “hey this can be None are you sure you want to call .some_func() on it?”
- use an ide. Don’t just raw dog it in notepad. You should have syntax highlighting, red squiggles for errors, the ability to go to definition.
- learn to use a debugger. Pdb is built in and fine.
- don’t write mega functions that do a thousand things. Split things up into smaller steps.
- avoid side effects. You don’t want your “say_hello” function to also turn on the lights
Mixed. I find new artists I like somewhat frequently, but genre-wise I don’t often go that far.
I don’t really relate to “I listen to all kinds of music! A hundred new songs a day!”. I find an album I like and spend a couple weeks with it, then find something new. I go into my backlog a lot.
I buy music (mostly on Bandcamp) so that works for me. Cheaper than a subscription,.and now I have a library.
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Fediverse@lemmy.world•The Small Website Discoverability CrisisEnglish
11·6 days agoThere was someone a while ago who was trying to get a web ring going for like nerd stuff. They said so many of their friends and people they talked to loved the idea, but no one made a site of their own.
I posted it in a local community group, and everyone said the same thing.
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Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world•What in your opinion is the appropriate way to use emojis?
1·6 days agoI use them as reactions on platforms that support it. Someone sends a PR and I react with eye emoji for looking at it, checkmark for done, or speech bubble for comments. It takes less space than a full text response. Especially in damned Teams that doesn’t have threads in chats, so you can’t even group your responses.
That’s pretty much it. I don’t use them as punctuation and rarely use them in an actual message
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Technology@lemmy.world•The Free Market Lie: Why Switzerland Has 25 Gbit Internet and America Doesn'tEnglish
62·6 days agoYep. Infrastructure shouldn’t be privately owned.

Ars is weirdly pro-windows sometimes , in the comments. I don’t read them as much as I used to.