Shenandoah National Part during a wind storm in March. It’s not always windy there but holy shit that was some wind.

Thank you for sharing! This is extremely helpful!

What we find gross is mostly arbitrary and emotional. It’s loosely based on the perception of filth but most people who find something gross will continue to find that thing gross even if they know it’s clean. If someone feels like snakes are gross, they watch you take a snake and scrub it clean with soap and water (don’t actually do this obviously) and you try to hand them the scrubbed snake, most people would continue to call it gross. Furthermore, if you ask most people why they find something gross, they won’t be able to give you a real answer. (Food seems to be an exception but we mean something entirely different and much more specific when calling food gross unless we are saying that the food is somehow foul or unclean)

In most cases, when someone calls something gross, they are doing so as a reaction to a feeling it gives them. Whatever they say after that tends to be some form of post-hoc justification to legitimize that feeling.

This behavior is as annoying as it is unhelpful. I agree that nobody should let the story fade from public interest but spamming random threads doesn’t accomplish that. It’s just obstructive and if anything it’s doing more harm than good. There is a thing called alarm fatigue. If you keep “shouting from your rooftop” you are just going to push your neighbors into shutting their windows.

Also maybe consider talking to a therapist about it? It’s none of my business but this level of investment seems unhealthy.

Nah, you are speaking sense. I think Lemmy was really pitched as a Reddit alternative (or at least that was my experience)and it makes sense that the first flood of people who got excited about that are people who miss how Reddit used to feel.

IMHO Lemmy feels similar to how Reddit felt 10-15 years ago. The community seems closer to my age. The population is smaller. The content is less formulaic.

The biases shown here feel like a distillation of the broader internet (similar to what Reddit used to be). We like animals and nature, we hate intrusive powerful forces like large corporations or invasive governments. We share a shit-post-y sense of humor. We tend to lean left politically. We love to feel like we know more than we actually do.

On any given subject, if you ask “What would the internet think about this?” you will probably find that same opinion reflected strongly here.

What I want to know is why this compound acts this way on tumor cells and not healthy body cells. Im sure there is an explanation for that given the researchers are publishing its effectiveness, but I wish the article specified.

One class for one hour is not much time at all. To get the most out of it, I would actually try to keep the scope as narrow as possible. I would really dig into these two things:

Password management (make good passwords, use a pw-manager to avoid reusing a pw, change passwords regularly)

Spotting social engineering (I would spend at least 2/3 of the class on this topic) this is by far the most common vector through which people get hurt by poor tech literacy. If you want to do the most good for the most people I would recommend focusing on drilling this skill.

I spent 7 years on my 4 year degree for vaguely similar reasons. I didn’t take breaks. I pushed through and cracked and failed and started over in a new major and a new school. That was nearly a decade ago and I’m not really happy with where it lead me. I wish I had taken the time off. If I could go back now with my current knowledge of how my brain works differently, I would be so much more successful. I’m also just rambling at this point.

I guess what I’m trying to say is be kind to yourself over the choices to have made. Not only can you rarely ever take them back, the grass is rarely ever actually greener on the other side.

It’s been a long time since I have actually been able to do this but let me lay out a vibe for you:

I work 2nd shift which ends at 10:30 pm and I used to live in a really rough neighborhood. The kind of place where people mind their own business as a matter of safety. The kind of place where landlords don’t do inspections so everyone has a grill on their patio even though it’s against the lease.

So I would go out every single night at 11:30-midnight, light up the charcoal grill, poor myself a cocktail and spend the next hour or two cooking for myself in the quiet empty dark.

So to actually answer the question:

• the food would change often but always grilled meats and vegetables. A hamburger and an ear of corn, skewered and marinated meats and vegetables with baked beans, everything you would think to pair with a steak, I even grilled cuts of fish on a salt brick a few times.

• the drink would be something seasonal. In the fall I would mix burnt sugar whiskey with hot apple cider. That was my favorite.

• what I listened to was always some audio horror fiction. I love music but there was just something about the fire, the moon, and the colony of feral cats that chilled with me for table scraps, that demanded I listen to ghost stories.

If they are good at things and make me feel like I’m good at stuff then why bother counting. A high body count could mean they cheat or move on easily. … or not… so I really don’t put any weight behind it.

I get why it can be intimidating or insecurity provoking to be with an experienced partner but all that really matters is how you connect with them. If they don’t give you a reason to make their body count matter, then I wouldn’t call it a red flag.

I can seriously relate to that feeling of hopeless unfulfilment. I struggle with slipping into and out of that place myself. What I find helps the most are little things. Small acts of self care that, over time, help me reach out again and grasp the belief that I can change things. Whatever you do and wherever you go, it has to start with the belief that things can get better, even if you don’t see how.

Just focus on little things. Improve your life in small controllable ways. Don’t worry about big problems or permanent solutions. Living well is all about momentum. You start building steam one coal at a time.

I didn’t get diagnosed with ADHD until I was nearly done with college and a lot of what I just read felt very familiar.

You said you wanted general advice so I will try to keep this broad:

How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time! You don’t need to see the end from the beginning to know that walking forward will get you nearer to your goal. When you try to look at the whole project or list of projects at once it’s going to feel overwhelming. That’s not going to change. You just have to get comfortable with it and learn to keep moving forward even if you can’t rationalize your way through everything at once.

If it’s worth doing at all, it’s worth doing poorly. You said you want more storage furniture but you can’t get it yet because you don’t know how much stuff you have to store. Well I think you should go out and get some shelves anyway. Even if it isn’t the exact amount of storage you need, it’s still worth doing because it’s still better than nothing and it still gets you closer to your goal. If you find you need more later then get more later. Your stuff is also variable. Things are bound to come and go while you figure this out. It’s okay to work on being “better” knowing it still won’t be “perfect”

Forget about the ideal life you want to lead. That part is a daydream. It’s a fairytale we tell ourselves for a variety of reasons. What is real is what is now and that’s where you should start grounding yourself. Build systems that work for you today and get you closer to where you want to be. If you want to change those systems later because they don’t serve you anymore then go ahead. That’s okay. Like I mentioned earlier, if it’s worth doing then it’s worth doing poorly. Don’t try to just jump in to your ideal life. That is just setting yourself up for failure. Build systems that work for you now but better. If you need to rebuild those systems later because your needs changed then that’s okay. In fact it’s great because it shows how much you have grown.

If you are open to reading suggestions, there is a book called Driven to Distraction by Edward Hallowell and John Ratey (both are M.D. s) about ADHD. I’m not trying to diagnose you or anything but this book changed my life. If you feel like I used to (and it sounds like you might) then this book might be helpful to you, ADHD or not.

If I had infinite money I would give it all away but my real opinion is a lot more closed-hearted.

I grew up in a drug town in the US and over time my will to help just died.

I knew some people in active addiction and every time we were out they would notice someone begging and say “hey, I know them! I have used with them. They are NOT homeless” or something to that effect.

I have seen people use their kids as props. I have seen people leave the corner and hop in their expensive af vehicle. I have seen people rob whoever stopped to help them. The list goes on and on.

It’s genuinely unsafe to get involved. Sure, most people aren’t like that but I can’t tell the difference and it only takes one. Besides that, if I gave a dollar to everyone who asked, I would have nothing left. I have to worry about me and mine.

Maybe if I grew up in a safer neighborhood I would feel differently but you don’t un-learn survival and I stopped carrying cash all together because of this.

Hot take:

End it… Just canonize a subset of the lore, remake that subset from beginning to end so it tells one concise story, and let it be done.

The real problem with Star Wars is that the lore keeps getting milked. It isn’t a story at all anymore. It’s just an IP. A cash cow to be milked. A dead horse for beating. Nothing they change now will fix that unless they uproot everything and remake it into something respectable.

In America this is the default method for small amounts of hot water.

There are glacier glasses with removable sides.

This is my experience exactly! I have never heard of someone else having a similar experience. If you end up going to a sleep specialist or finding any sort of explanation, please DM me about it.

The legal system has many jobs to fulfill, but in the broadest sense it serves to construct, maintain, and administrate the contract between a government and its citizens.

In spite of recent events, I do believe that the American legal system is one of the best that has ever existed. That isn’t to say it is perfect or even nearly so. Our system has many flaws, and recent events have done a great job at highlighting those flaws. However, it is worth remembering the severity of previous systems which lacked basic pillars we now take for granted (like the presumption of innocence)

It is also worth remembering that our legal system has a lot to contend with: not just the scale of the American population but the vastness of American diversity. Never before and nowhere else have such massively diverse populations been able to construct a society where we are all empowered to disagree with each other. The contract which makes this possible may still fail do provide these things equitably and may now be strained beneath its own weight, but the simple fact that we are able to discuss these flaws and conceive reasonable avenues for improvement is evidence that our system is (imperfectly) working.

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