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Cake day: August 3rd, 2023

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  • Well, it sounds like you’re going after women out if your league because you think they’re attractive and that’s a valid choice. But it is a choice you’re making. It sounds like you could have intimacy if you lowered your standards or increased you attractiveness (gym etc). Or you could abandon dating to not have to face rejections.

    So I think the key to avoid bitterness is to reevaluate if the choice you are making still works for you if it brings up bitterness. Then you can either stay with your choice or switch, if you don’t think any other option brings less negative feelings.

    And if you choose the best option for you, there’s no need for bitterness.








  • For me it’s the lack of interesting communities to browse. Everything active seems to be about, Linux, programming, politics, Star Trek or anime. Some midtier memes. That’s basically a list of subreddits I had blocked on reddit. And it’s all that exists here.

    Edit: I just counted. I’m subscribed to 179 communities. In the first 50 posts on my subscribed feed (basically 2 days worth of content), there are 7 communities featured. The first post that does not mention above topics and isn’t a meme is post no 15. In total, there are 4 posts in the first 50 posts that do not mention any of those topics. 2 of those are interesting to me. That’s just not a good enough ratio.








  • I agree, if I subscribe to a community that has 2 posts a week, I wanna see those posts, eben if they have no comments. I wonder if a lemmy equivalent to a multireddit could also help? In a multireddit you could group communities into one separate feed (like just create a multireddit “cats” and add all cat related subreddits to this multireddit, and then you could see all cat related content within one feed.

    Its not as good a solution as to have the algorithm push it, but maybe there’s a lemmy functionality I’m unaware of that could already emulate this process.