Not on topic, just wanted to tell you that was one of the nicest conservations I’ve red online. Good on you for being so understanding and cute.
And coming from a country with universal healthcare it should totally be a human right everywhere. I hope one day the working class in the USA will win!
The fact that the girlfriend doesn’t want to tell her family is kind of a hint that they won’t be happy about the relationship. So being upset is kind of the best outcome in this situation.
It’s nice that you and also I have met nice muslims who encouraged their kids do love whoever they want. In this specific scenario I would trust the girlfriend though, because she knows her family better than us.
So as a doctor working in an intensive care unit, we even know we’re the baddies sometimes. We’ve had people quit over that. Pretty hard to fight the system and take people off of live support. I’m in Austria and the laws are pretty different here. Best thing we can do if we think a patient isn’t benefiting from more life prolonging interventions is to do an “ethic council”. There a bunch of different doctors who don’t work at the same unit and a lawyer get together and decide what to do. Still we had some people rotting to death in our unit. Also people on life support where we knew we could never get them out of intensive care and just prolonging their suffering. In the end some kind of infection will take them. But we’re just prolonging their suffering and their families suffering who are trusting us. Horrible situation all around. And the thing is we do that because the surgeon in charge doesn’t want them to die because then the surgery will be considered failed In statistics. So we keep them alive for 30 days… I’m still in training so can’t really change the system just make people as comfortable as possible with painmedication and sedation until they’re allowed to die. (Usually after 30 days so the surgery is seen as successful)
Unfair do downvote you. I’m reading about people who get up at 7 to get their kids ready and then be in office at 9. That’s much better than my job actually. I don’t want to say that it wouldn’t be even worse with kids, but still have to be at work at 7, so need to be a morning person.