Why YSK: Interviewers like to weed out people who have gaps in their employment history for myriad nonsensical reasons. If you remember that this is all just a game to the employer, you can play to win.
Fill the gaps with a story about a failed foray into entrepreneurship in a related field.
I had a massive gap and this worked gangbusters after six months of constant rejection. The gap was caused by my mother’s health rapidly deteriorating, and my sense of responsibility to care for her - which became a full time job until she passed.
After that, I went through the dehumanizing experience of dozens of interviews where I was asked about the gap. Describing why I took the time out of the workforce was hard enough - adding insult to injury was the homogenous reactions among all interviewers. You could watch them mentally write me off in real time, and then go through the motions before sending me off to wait for a “the organization has interviewed several great candidates” email.
It occurred to me that instead of baring my pain for callous interviewers, what they’d rather hear about was a “go-getter” whose spirit has been broken enough to come crawling back to the rat race. So I concocted a story about a failed attempt at being an entrepreneur in their industry.
Lo, and behold - After I stopped telling the truth and started telling people about Vandelay Industries` mighty struggle to remain solvent due to market forces, I found myself with three offers in the same number of weeks.
The difference in interviewers` whole demeanor between “took care of dying mother,” and “had to see if I could get Vandelay Industries off the ground while I was young enough to be able to recover from a failure” was night and day.
Read about failed startups. Rehearse.
Everybody lies in the corpo-world. Lie better.
I don’t know what industry you’re in but I’m sorry this happened. The same happened to me and I found a job within two weeks; my hiring manager told me that I had excellent values.
It’s always good to hear that there are still people who see fair treatment!
Your field can make a difference, but I think it really depends on the breadth of your skillset, timing, luck and location if you’re an office drone.
This happened to me several years ago, and the conditions weren’t the best because I had recently decided to change careers. I had low experience in my chosen field, but it ended up being worth the pain.
Doing well now, and the combination of career experience opened a lot of doors. Mom would be proud! :)
I work for government, and not in the US… People genuinely appreciate different things and understand people aren’t productivity machines.
Wage labor is dehumanizing in it’s current form.
Nah, no “gaps” need to be explained at all. What even is a gap? It takes easily from weeks to months and even years sometimes to find employment and that’s not something for the worker to grovel for.
5-year break from working? That can even be a life goal and not a gap.
I think the real reason employers don’t want people with large gaps is because they don’t want people who can afford to take that much time off. It scares them knowing that their threats of termination aren’t going to work.
Maybe not so much “can afford”, but “are willing to”.
For all we know OP was living in abject poverty while taking care of their mum, but still making that choice. In that scenario, they couldn’t afford, but still did.
Appreciate your idealism, but this is the ugly new reality in the US if you’re not adequately situated to tell them to pound sand.
There are very few people in that position, and they gotta eat. The economy is bad, but it’s trending toward perpetual dogshit for an overwhelming majority.
The bigger the company, the more I find that they rely on desperation to keep costs low because they can take it a bit further than they used to.
Believe me… I once had the opportunity to take a year off. It was glorious, and I’lL f’N dO iT aGaIn.
yes but sometimes they’re trying to find people who fit a preconceived notion of “who they want to work with.” They may use phrases like “team player” or whatnot. They want someone who is like them. I mean, I can understand the motivation behind that approach but I don’t think it’s the best way forward.
yeah they want someone who is like them, and i am definetly not like this. so it is very good to receive a “No” from this type of workplace
Yeah I think that’s true as well. I don’t want to make broad statements because situations vary; is it better to try to fake the fit into those jobs OR are people better off skipping and moving to the next lead.
aye, there’s the rub.
I’ve adopted the Sour Grapes philosophy over the past few years : if they didn’t want to hire me then they’re obviously a bunch of stupid fucks who don’t know quality when they see it, which means I wouldn’t want to work with them in the first place. but I say that from a position of already having a job. That philosophy doesn’t help someone trying to find a first job or trying to get back into the workforce after an extended absence.
I really hate how it’s “frowned upon” to take a few months to rest and recuperate after working for a number of years. I’m usually honest about why there’s a 1–2-month gap.
If they don’t take me because of this, then so be it, probably not a good company to work for.
I’ve twice now just claimed to be employed, and refused to give a reference because I didn’t want to fuck up my job if I didn’t take the new offer. Worked both times.
This is great advice, coming from someone who pondered using the “Mother was really sick and had to manage her illness and passing” excuse if I ever went back, as it was true for me too. (I’m sorry for your loss, it’s a really painful life transition, I know.)
I ended up taking a slightly different approach. I worked in IT project management before I retired early. My LinkedIn resume shows me currently employed as an “IT consultant” and will until I decide I need another job or I kick it.
On top of justifying your employment gaps, laying through your fucking teeth is a mighty effective tactic in job interviews in general.
You have the experience they’re looking for. Where did you get it? Toys r us, sears, choose any company that went bankrupt. List your friend (coach them on what to say) as your manager at that place.
You love overtime when it’s necessary. You don’t have anyone at home waiting for you so if there’s work to do you’re happy to get a bigger paycheck instead of being bored all night. It doesn’t matter if it’s true because that guy told you “we don’t ask for overtime often, we work well”. Both of you were lying, it’s fine.
You need a certification from a bullshit company like AWS or Azure (not actually useful certs like forklift mind you, please do stay secure). Don’t fucking pay for it, tell them you had the opportunity to follow the classes but we’re too busy with work to pass the exam! Sure you don’t have the paper to show for it but you know what you’re talking about! And you’re such a great candidate why would you like to them about that?
Lie through your teeth everytime you get the chance, because they’re doing it too. Worse case scenario? They find out and never call you back. Oh no! The thing they were going to do if you didn’t lie!
I do this for every job lol. It always worked out and after they hire you, its much harder to fire you for their petty reasons.
Everyone says it’s a great idea, but I’d say these counterpoints:
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If you’re going for any type of “business manager, sales or leadership” role, failing at a startup isn’t a winning look. Yes, I know it’s normal to fail at startups and later succeed, I’ve done it, it’s true, but it’s still selling a loss rather than selling a win.
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You better be well-prepared to completely describe that failed startup and why it didn’t work out.Ideally you can describe well the lessons learned from it, and how they could have been overcome with better luck, circumstances and another chance
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It’s just lying and not great, I’d rather polish whatever the truth is than making something up.
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I’m very sorry for your loss.
Appreciated. This happened many years ago, so I’m used to my new normal.
I posted this here because I was going through my exported posts/comments from reddit, and realized that I have a ton of intellectual property that I feel can be shared with others without their involvement.
The #1 red flag to an employer is “I don’t NEED a job.” before my VA pension got bumped to 100%, I was looking for a bs job to keep busy and you could see the switch in their head flip everytime when I’d explain “I’m retired, I’m not scrambling for money I’m looking for a good fit.”
Employers lose their gdamn minds if you aren’t exploitable. They know that means if I schedule time off for a trip or concert, I’m not going to cancel with two days notice to cover some shift. They know it means I’m not going to stand for 3 managers blaming my entry level ass for their mistakes and/or incompetence. It’s garbage and really speaks to the core of capitalism.
I’ve only ever had one company call any of my references lmao
My current job is the only one that ever has
I know because the first one is my wife, who was actually my boss for a while
On the way home from the interview HR called her, she was in the car with me lol
Wow, you actually fucked your boss!
I just said the truth that my Dad had cancer and I went home to spend time with him and then take care of things after his death (1y gap). Kinda annoying how they still ask me that even 8 years later, but at least there is usually some sort of apology or regret after I tell them.
I don‘t know why it didn‘t work for you, maybe it only works on compassionate people and I got lucky. Good advice though, no need to be truthful in interviews.
I started an LLC a few years ago for a couple hundred bucks and I use that to fill the necessary gaps in the same way you’re referencing.
As someone who is taking a break from the workforce to care for a baby (lol childcare costs), I’m already struggling to not feel shame when I admit it to acquaintances. I’ll definitely be bullshitting if/when I come back.
You don’t even really need to bs it that much.
“For thr last years I have held a really important position at a small company, working with logistic, settlements, transport, and economics. I have grate experience working under a lot of stress and can handle it with grate care. I have been the go to person for all important tasks and I have handled them within time and budget. I am a excellent spider in the web and can have many balls in the air without problem.”
With a bit creativity writing parenting can sound like a lot jobs, just change the text up a bit to fit what you are looking for.
NDA APPLIES (6-2020 8-2022)
Come up with a bunch of skills you had or gained during the down time, list them.
That’s it, you can talk about the skills acquired and honed during the time, but you can’t talk about specifics due to an NDA.
