• atro_city@fedia.io
    3·
    5 months ago

    Online dating is so shit for the majority of hetero dudes. You’re lucky if you match with somebody, luckier if you get to have some kind of discussion that doesn’t end after a few messages, even luckier if it ends in a date, amazingly lucky if anything physical happens, and incredibly lucky if it turns into a relationship.

    Men are expected to initiate, keep the discussion alive, ask out, keep the woman entertained, and be grateful they were chosen. It only gets worse online.

    • moosetwin@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      2·
      5 months ago

      this power imbalance is bad for everyone as well, if you meet up with someone via these (if are not male presenting), there is a concerningly high chance that you get sexually assaulted, I am terrified how common this seems to be among the women I’ve talked to

        • The_Terrible_Humbaba@slrpnk.netEnglish
          1·
          5 months ago

          I think they mean if you’re a woman (trans or cis), it can be terrifying to meet with people. At least that’s how I interpreted it.

          Edit: Perhaps they are also talking about non-binary people, which is why they chose the words “not male presenting”.

    • humbletightband@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
      0·
      5 months ago

      Thanks to Tinder I had the best and the worst first dates in my life.

      But both long term girlfriends and soon-to-be-my-wife I met through friends