When I feel bad emotionally, I clean. I do the nastiest, most unpleasant jobs; since I’m gonna be miserable no matter what, I might as well get some use out of it.
That’s interesting. I wonder if I can trick myself into doing stuff like that as a form of punishment. Generally I find myself unable to move so I just stare into space. Sometimes I have a hard time even moving my arms and legs to drive home from work. Or to get out of the car once I’ve parked out front. How do you manage to start?
It’s a practice. It’s about bringing your focus back to the present moment. When you’re sitting in your car your head is probably swimming in the world of what happens when you step out. But you’re not out yet, you’re in your car. Breathe and remind yourself of that.
Think of it like restarting your computer when it freezes. You’ve overwhelmed your system, it’s easier to reset than try resolve the issue through direct control.
I don’t force myself to start right away. After years of “well I guess I might as well” I now more-or-less automatically start washing dishes, doing laundry, and tackling yardwork when my mood dips. I still need to make the conscious choice to tackle bigger jobs like mucking out the basement or turnjng the compost.
When I feel bad emotionally, I clean. I do the nastiest, most unpleasant jobs; since I’m gonna be miserable no matter what, I might as well get some use out of it.
I think I might try this. It sounds useful in so many ways.
That’s interesting. I wonder if I can trick myself into doing stuff like that as a form of punishment. Generally I find myself unable to move so I just stare into space. Sometimes I have a hard time even moving my arms and legs to drive home from work. Or to get out of the car once I’ve parked out front. How do you manage to start?
It’s a practice. It’s about bringing your focus back to the present moment. When you’re sitting in your car your head is probably swimming in the world of what happens when you step out. But you’re not out yet, you’re in your car. Breathe and remind yourself of that.
Think of it like restarting your computer when it freezes. You’ve overwhelmed your system, it’s easier to reset than try resolve the issue through direct control.
I don’t force myself to start right away. After years of “well I guess I might as well” I now more-or-less automatically start washing dishes, doing laundry, and tackling yardwork when my mood dips. I still need to make the conscious choice to tackle bigger jobs like mucking out the basement or turnjng the compost.
That’s kinda genius.
Do you feel that getting the worst jobs done also helps to boost your mood, because that awful thing you didn’t want to do is now done?
Not in that way, but:
A) my environment is usually nicer afterwards, which improves mood, and
2] if I was miserable due to fighting with my partner, seeing me do chores usually improves her mood, facilitating reconciliation
I am sorry you are fighting with your partner. Have a heart ❤️ that means nothing to you.
Stealing this