which would just about kill mj love for programming

How is the expectation of coding fast killing your love for programming, but stopping programming altogether and letting an AI do it is not?

It’s interesting that so many people are able to do this. For me, I’d just rather lose my job than do something I fundamentally disagree with. If I didn’t, I would just be so extremely unhappy that I couldn’t function anyway.

Not bashing you, just pondering the differences.

This, but instead of your rant against the US, just humans in general. Every country has those kinds of people that would be/enable evil. The only difference is that that in different places their evilness is allowed in different amounts/representation.

You can not imagine that for some people it could be new that the exact same color looks completely different?

Wikipedia says the original dress was blue/black.

The left and right dress are exactly the same color. However, your eye makes you think the left is black/blue while the right is white/yellow. (Within the shaded area)

Yes, but the black and blue is actually exactly the same color as the yellow and white. They’re both the same color but one looks black/blue while the other looks white/yellow.

Depends what the relationship between me and the person they cheated with is.

If it’s my brother (or anyone I know well) they cheated with, sure I’d confront him. If it’s some stranger, no.

For any advice post, there should be one thing that is most important: a clear description of the problem.

Otherwise, all advice is almost completely random/useless. Because maybe changing the name is the right solution, but maybe it isn’t. There’s no way to know.

In my opinion, there is no explanation of the problem at all here. You just say “too identifiable”, however my name/lastname is probably also completely unique, yet I can’t even think of a problem I would have with that.

So, what is the actual problem?

You can just ask to be pegged, many women are happy to do it nowadays.

Well, this is in the context of people choosing to accept donations as an open-source developer. Taking donations requires opt-in, I would assume someone like you just wouldn’t take them in the first place.

However, I’m sorry that they make you uncomfortable or even guilty, because that sounds to me like you think you don’t deserve them. Which to me, is sad, because the other person making the donation definitely thinks you deserved it.

“most” is the keyword here.

But they don’t produce output

I would argue that this is not even close to true.

As an open source developer myself, my contribution to open source is pretty much exactly proportional to how well I’m feeling. Getting a donation makes me feel appreciated, using the money makes me feel better, all leading to me being more motivated to spend time on some open-source.

Obviously, being able to only work on open-source would generate more output, but the psychological impact of feeling appreciated to output can’t be dismissed and is huge.

I mean, if you simply want your code to be available somewhere so that you can access it from anywhere/have a backup, you can just not use any “service” at all. Just make a bare git repo on your server and expose it via ssh.

Only if you really need the collaboration features should you be using these kind of services, otherwise you just don’t really need them. (I would use Forgejo from Codeberg.)

Why are you going broke though? Why can the solution not be “do not let yourself go broke”?

Well, the country and even sub-jurisdiction (like city, depending on country) is very relevant though, as this problem you’re having is one where the best solutions are very local.

Most things you can do is get help from the community you live in, and without knowing the community, advice is too general and probably not very helpful.

You should look for local help and ask people there what to do.

Well, maybe, but if I look at the picture, I can see that the topmost mattresses are perfectly even, i.e. the bendy part of the negative comment is completely evened out after the 4th “positive comment mattress”, i.e. you can’t feel it at all anymore above that.

Wait, I don’t get it. So do you mean to say that you get so many positive comments, that the slight negative ones are completely irrelevant as once you’re insulated with so many layers of positive ones, you can’t even tell there’s negative ones in there somewhere?

If that is what you mean, then yes actually. I’m so lucky to be getting so much love from around me, that I don’t even notice the negative ones anymore.

But if you use this app, you would be using BT, so turn it on…

I mean I assume you don’t have much sex or a girlfriend or anything.

In that case, at least from what I know from myself or my friends, this desire to look is completely normal. I think you might follow that desire a little bit too much (as it is something you can control), but the base feeling you have is something most men experience.

Your nature is telling you to approach women and have sex with them. For some reason, you don’t, maybe because you’re scared, socially anxious, people have told you being sexual is terrible, whatever. This part of your nature is very strong, and as it seems the only thing left for you is looking, of course you’re going to want to do it.

If you actually approach women and have a healthy sex life, that desire probably goes down, but of course now you’ve also made it a kind of compulsive habit, so it might be hard to break.

It’s honestly quite ridiculous to me that you’re ashamed of looking at sexually attractive people. Despite what some radical feminists or whoever will tell you, just looking and being sexually attracted is nothing shameful. It’s more likely that this shame itself is causing the issue, since you’re sexual, yet that is for some reason shameful so you can’t satisfy it, causing you to have more of a sexual desire since you have so little of actual action.

Sexuality is our main drive, it is constant, and there’s nothing wrong with it as long as you inquire about people’s boundaries and respect them.