• June@lemm.ee
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    1 year ago

    I also grew up a fundie evangelical and am out of it now (and coincidentally ‘out’ now at nearly 40).

    This is bang on. Hearing this story didn’t really phase me because it’s a clear misinterpretation of what they do.

    They have an accountability software like xwatch or covenant eyes that tracks everything they do online (limited to machines it’s installed on so any adult could just go buy a new device) and reports any shady URLs to their ‘accountability partner’. Mike is playing that role for his son which, in fundie land, is great parental support. And for reasons unknown to me, his son seems to play that role for him, which is decidedly less common as it elevates a son to an equal position with the father. But this shit happens sometimes, especially in a particularly insular family where it would be damaging for the truth of these behaviors to come out. A good example is how the Duggars handled Josh being a sexual predator before it went public.

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      1 year ago

      Yep. Grew up in multiple fundamentalist Baptist churches. Every guy I knew who did this either had “slipped up” once, had developed an addiction, or had an intense fear of it.

      In my experience, most of them did it because of fear. They were super paranoid that letting their guard down for the briefest moment would cause them to destroy their lives and their families. I was even taught that I would basically be tempted to violate women at all times if they showed their skin; and that it would be their fault of course.

      It seems like there’s broadly two types of fundamentalist churches. One where it’s a hypocritical good old boys club, and the other is a place where everyone lives in constant fear of pissing off God and having their lives destroyed. “Did you hear X has cancer? I wonder they did to deserve that?” levels of fear. Grew up mostly in the latter. Though I think each church is at least a little bit of both.