For example, my car is parked in a single lane driveway, mom’s car is in the garage, she opens the garage door, zooms backwards and puts a hole in my front bumper with her trailer hitch. Then she comes inside to wake me up and yell at me. Is that just an extension of narcissism or what words are there to describe someone like that?
A Narcissist’s Prayer
That didn’t happen.
And if it did, it wasn’t that bad.
And if it was, that’s not a big deal.
And if it is, that’s not my fault.
And if it was, I didn’t mean it.
And if I did, you deserved it.
I’ve read something very much like that but it was called something else, like stages of rationalization maybe.
Is this a real thing? It’s pretty funny
It was written by someone called Dayna Craig IIRC.
It’s a perfect distillation of narcissist psychology IMO.
Spot on.
Oh I can assure you it’s real. But it’s easy to see, even trump follows (followed - now he doesn’t need to anymore) this logic.
Its not funny if you have a pathological narcissist in your vicinity.
Oh yeah. Trump. Thanks
Hm, I have the feeling I said something wrong? In any case, no offense was intended.
Sociopath
Psychopath
Narcissist
All three of those personality disorders could characterize that type of behavior.
They do something wrong but it’s never their fault. It’s always someone else’s fault.
Asshole?
Republican
That’s so specific there has to be a yiddish word for it. IIRC a “schlemiel” is a guy who goes to a fancy dinner and spills his soup, and a “schlamazel” is the guy he spills it on. There has to be a word for somebody who uses scapegoats.
Christ, that’s something my SO would do. And then later deny that the event ever occurred.
That’s… Not normal. At all.
ex-SO I hope?
Sounds like DARVO
Isn’t that the definition of “gaslighting”?
“Gaslighting” is a lie told where the victim knows it is a lie. So could be.
But with one subtlety: If the “liar” is a narcissist, then the “lie” is often believed by the narcissist themselves, making it not a lie as such - since “lie” implies they know it is untrue.
Narcissist
Deflection: https://dictionary.cambridge.org/us/dictionary/english/deflection
The act of attacking or blaming another person rather than accepting criticism or blame for your own actions: Deflection is a psychological defense mechanism.
Ya definitely deflection, is there a word for people who chronically do this?
“Victim blamers” works
I’ve often thought the word “asshole” fits…
For general purposes yes, but if somebody is looking for the name of a certain kind of cabinet they want more than “furniture”.
I don’t disagree. But seeing as OP specifically asked for a word, I’m inclined to offer the most specific, most descriptive word I can muster that is germane to what they’ve described.
IMO, precision of language is paramount when it comes to addressing other people’s problematic behavior, because it closes the door on excuses like “it’s just a simple misunderstanding” or “that’s just their opinion”.
The most poignant example I’ve heard of are from parents that make absolutely certain that their children learn the proper names for their body parts. As in, not “hoo-hah” or “privates” but the actual, unambiguous clinical names. This is a marked improvement than the TV trope of “where on the doll did the bad man touch you”.
Ah, yes… then narcissist is the one.
I think what she’s doing is called externalization. She’s not able to recognize and/or tolerate her own internal state and is projecting onto you. Maybe she feels shame for what happened and can’t tolerate feeling shame, so she’s treating you like you should feel ashamed. All this is arguable though
This was my surmise as well. Could stem from plain emotional immaturity, needn’t be full-blown narcissism. It’s the reaction of a child who can’t process a negative emotion.
Republican
Reminds me of when we sent a tech out to someone’s home to set up a workstation. The wife of the guy getting the workstation backed into his car, and drove off.
After seeing the damage to his car, our tech went to tell the husband, and before he could even say anything the husband said, “my wife hit your car, didn’t she?”
It’s happened often enough that this guy didn’t even need to be told. He knew.
MAGA?
SLAM
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