• 🇰 🌀 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️@yiffit.net
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    2 months ago

    The ability to be spontaneous doesn’t change.

    It’s what you can do spontaneously that changes.

    I can’t spontaneously just take off to Japan; but I can spontaneously take a walk around town or go to a park.

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        I mean…it depends on the job? I go on walks during working hours all the time to clear my head and think about a problem I’m working on. I don’t try to hide this from my manager.

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        Most financially secure people still work full time. I suppose that in theory, they’re able to quit their jobs without suffering immediate, catastrophic consequences but if they actually did that sort of thing, they wouldn’t be financially secure for long.

        (In my experience, many financially secure people actually work much more than full time. I think they would be better off if they didn’t because at some point time becomes more valuable than money, but they have the sort of personality that compels them to. This is often related to starting out without financial security.)

        The very rich can do crazy stuff without consequences but they’re such a small part of the population that I don’t think comparing oneself to them is useful.

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        If you don’t know the difference between “your” and “you’re”, you’re probably getting fired at some point anyway

        It’s not difficult and you could learn it in the space of a short walk

        It’d impress your boss

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          It’s annoying when people get pedantic about spelling on the internet, but at least you weren’t a massive, insufferable arsehole about it.

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            True, but is it pedantic? The same people that complain they can’t find a job are the ones that make huge grammar mistakes in their applications or résumés.

            I wouldn’t hire someone who was too lazy to proofread over someone who wasn’t; would you? And then why should that rule not apply to your fellows on the internet?

            Sometimes if you don’t point out people’s mistakes, you’re actually hurting their future selves

            I think everyone nowadays is a bit too accepting of other people’s faults to try to seem a bit more morally superior themselves, without realising that they’re actually being abusive in the long term

            Anyway, I’m not actually serious here, I just wondered who would actually read this far

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              2 months ago

              Please remember that everyone here isn’t a native English speaker and neither does everyone use English in professional writing.

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              Nah, you’re just coming off as a giant asshole. Correcting your vs you’re on the internet is pedantic as fuck. Could have easily been an autocorrect or typo on their phone.

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              I wouldn’t hire someone who was too lazy to proofread over someone who wasn’t; would you?

              Since “would you?” is incomplete, a comma would be correct here rather than a semicolon.

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      Yea, feels like an excuse for lack of spontinaity. Not judging OP, could be depression or any such thing, but these are two independent variables.

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      You’re right. Being rich might open up more types of spontaneity, but this just sounds like an excuse to not do anything.

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    I was a lot more spontaneous when I was a broke young man than I am now as a fairly comfortable adult. Usually the number of responsibilities you have goes up as your income does, and those are the killers of spontaneity.

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      Maybe it’s also the fact that you’re older and more mature?

      What if you had a stream of income in your youth from family supporting you?

      Generational wealth.

      I definitely would’ve been more spontaneous instead of work two jobs while going to college in my early 20s.

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      Reminds me of that 20th century philosopher, C.G.L. Wallace, who quipped “mo money, mo problems”

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      Yeah, this makes sense. Think the thought still holds though. Just needs to be explained with the normal distribution meme.

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      Usually, yes.

      I can attest that not/postponing having kids drastically reduces the number of responsibilities. Many of my friends had kids younger and are in drastically different scenarios than I am.

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    To get your final spontaneity ability score, you have to multiply base spontaneity by a factor of

         1  
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    1 + 1000 * k  
    

    where k is the number of kids you have.

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    I’d say it plateaus eventually. You do need .Oney to do a lot of stuff, but once you have enough money, depression will keep you from being spontaneous anyways.

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    I’d say it’s more linked to how many dependents you have, rather than money in the bank.

    Someone with no kids, no wife spouse (edit), and no pets can be spontaneous without a second thought.

    Someone who’s tied down, but wealthy, not so much.

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    I’m richer than I’ve ever been, and I am far less spontaneous than I’ve ever been.

    It’s not linear, it’s some weird polynomial equation!

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    Man can be free only when and if he’s able to rise above his insecurities

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    My bank account seems to be pretty big. No matter how much money I throw in there, I never seem to run out of space. As far as I’m concerned, it’s infinite.

    I guess, eventually there will be some sort of limitation and the bank gives you a call to tell you that this is a personal account not meant for managing the cash flow of an entire country. Until then, we’re all good, and I’m going to think my account is infinite.

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    The ability to be spontaneous is directly related to your

    Work/Life balance

    It’s almost as though you could stand up and fight for that, I dunno

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      you could stand up and fight for that

      For best results, do not do spontaneously (that is, go grab some friends and coworkers before attempting to take on a big business)

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    not at all.

    The ability to be spontaneous is directly proportional to your willingness to accept risk.

    knowledge mitigates much of that risk.

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        I was way more spontaneous when I was couch surfing. My whole life was one giant spontaneous stream of actions. That’s partially why I was couch surfing.

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        I was stating a general rule, like the shower thought was attempting.

        If you understand risk and its circumstances, you can mitigate that risk regardless of your situation.

        If I follow, you’re theorizing the unpracticed ability of a small minority of privileged people?

        independently wealthy people can be more spontaneous, but are generally more conservative, they’re as afraid as everybody else of spending their money.

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      Went on a spontaneous trip very recently.

      Spent a little more money than I’m comfy with.

      Truck sprung some issues.

      Saw some things I would never have seen otherwise. Some beautiful things, creatures, happenings, and places.

      I’ll fix the damn truck. Make the money back (or so)

      Is it risk, or are you just being a pussy? Yeah, the human world sucks, but you don’t need all the garbage they sell you, and there’s worthwhile experiences you won’t get with your nose stuck down to the grindstone.

      I bet you risk your life, limbs, and liberty every single day driving into work.

      I’ve had multiple friends die driving. They never thought THAT was a risk.

      Go somewhere you don’t plan to. It aint gonna last forever

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        “Is it risk, or are you just being a pussy”

        Risk(especially perceived risk) does stop many people, and many people don’t truly understand risk.

        “I bet you risk your life, limbs, and liberty every single day driving into work.”

        no. I don’t commute to car by work.

        “They never thought THAT was a risk.”

        many people don’t truly understand risk.

        "Go somewhere you don’t plan to. It aint gonna last forever "

        I’ve been traveling spontaneously for the past decade and agree.

        especially with this part:

        “It aint gonna last forever”

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    Time also plays a part.

    When I was staying at home with my kids and poor as fuck, 4 people living on $15k, if there was gas in the car I could just take us spontaneously to the park, and my city has free music performances on some Thursday nights, if I have free time I can just make a last minute decision and go.

    So now I have a good husband who earns $ and a good job, not rich but certainly more affluent than at any time in my life, but I am much less rich in time. Job takes a lot of it, more responsibility overall and less flexibility.

    I don’t think spontaneity scales with money, it scales with free time once you have enough money. And that “enough” is not a lot.

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    I think it has a lot to do with disposition and convenience. I’m lazy, and I don’t like to drive if I can help it. But I live near enough to public transportation that we’ll spontaneously decide to hop on the subway and grab dinner on the waterfront.

    It’s not the money that’s preventing us from hopping in the car to go to some new beach for dinner, it’s the convenience.